To understand what the Bible says about sexual intimacy and learn the importance of being a great lover who gives.
It is part of the life God intends for a husband and wife, not something he merely puts up with.
Adam and Eve were told to be fruitful and multiply (Gen 1:28) before sin entered in Genesis 3. It belongs to the original design.
The first couple were naked and felt no shame (Gen 2:25). Shame was not part of God's design for the marriage bed.
Marriage is to be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled (Heb 13:4).
Not only the early years. It is meant to continue and grow across the whole of married life.
The line is drawn to protect what sex is for: the union of one husband and one wife.
Sex is for the married couple to come into union.
The first purpose of sex is not to produce children; it is to produce unity between the husband and the wife.
To “be one flesh” is a figure of speech. It means a union or bonding in the invisible realm of the soul and spirit. We call that the soul-tie: the body, soul and spirit are somehow blended and bonded together.
Sex is for communicating love to your mate.
In God's plan, sex was intended to provide a means of total revealing oneself to be loved, of pouring one's energies and deepest love, affection, hopes, and dreams into your spouse.
Sex is for pleasure.
Sex is for the procreation of children.
“Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth …’” (Genesis 1:28)
On 1. The most important sex organ in the human body is the brain.
On 2. The word “render” is an imperative command. It is also given in a present continuous tense. In Greek, “render” means to pay back a debt.
Men are like light bulbs while women are more like an iron. God created us this way to make sex an art form, not something mechanical. For the man, it is going to require a lot of love, skill and patience to set the wife up for satisfying sex.
“I am trembling; you have made me as eager for love …” Song 6:12 (GNB)
Song of Solomon in the Good News Bible translation:
“Studies have revealed that satisfactory adjustment of sexual relations takes the average couple about six years. Twelve percent of the couples were able to make satisfactory adjustments within the first year of marriage. About ten percent took to twenty years to arrive at the adjustments that gave them a satisfying love life.”
About 10 percent of all males will be unable to achieve or maintain an erection at some point in their lives.
Possible reasons:
Treatment: counseling, medication (Viagra, Cialis, etc.), surgery.
Some women may suffer from vaginismus (unable to penetrate, or burning pain upon penetration attempts). In severe cases, some may have a condition called dyspareunia (pain during or after sexual intercourse).
Professional therapy is often needed and sometimes, surgery may be necessary. The right doctor to consult with is a gynaecologist or urologist.
What is pornography? It involves sexually explicit material intended to arouse. It is readily accessible through a variety of media, predominantly the Internet, and its consumption varies greatly among individuals.
Pornography often portrays sexual activity in an unrealistic manner, which can lead to skewed perceptions and expectations about sex. Real-life intimacy is about connection, understanding, and mutual respect, aspects often missing in porn.
Excessive consumption can lead to compulsive behavior or addiction, affecting personal life, work, and relationship.
Regular use of pornography can lead to decreased satisfaction with your partner's physical appearance, sexual performance, or the frequency and nature of sexual activities. It can also induce feelings of inadequacy or insecurity in your partner.
I need to constantly keep three things strong in my marriage:
A great lover is someone who can satisfy one woman over a lifetime, and who can be satisfied by one woman all his life long.
“A wife is not a guitar; you can't play on her and then hang her on the wall.”